While checking out a new dinner spot tonight, I began thinking about each of us. You reading this right now. Yep, YOU! I wonder what brings you to this blog, what is going on in your life right now? Are you going through trials and tribulations or is everything “Hunky Dory”? (Side note: I will always think of Kathy Hilton when saying that from now on.)
I hope this site/blog is a get-a-way for you… in a sense. Obviously my complaints aren’t a fun read but I’m human. I need an ear to talk to every now and again. A “judgment free zone” if you will.
As I was eating my chicken parmesan, I was people watching… some were a group of families, and one party was a fresh, young couple. You could tell it was the beginning of their relationship. I wondered if it was vivacious. Filled with lots of laughs and passion?! Remember the days?
The beginning of a relationship is so much fun! You are exploring each other, both intellectually and physically. The butterflies are rampant and the shit eating grin when his, or her, name pops up on your phone lights up the room. If you are an online dating couple, like my fiancé and I, you get so nervous to talk on the phone for the first time. You think, “Will I say something wrong?”, “What does he consider offensive?” “Will there be awkward silence?” When you finally do meet you memorize their scent and the way their house looks. Was it tidy? Or was it a wreck? (One time I had a date and his house smelled like cat pee. EW. That was a one and done date ladies.) Ahh, the memories of newly dating.
Sometimes my fiancé and I reminisce on the younger days of our relationship. Sometimes they are the best memories I have of us. Maybe because they were imprinting on my mind? I was soaking up every waking minute and I loved it! The “Good morning!” texts and the evening dates left me in a fog. We traveled several times within the first couple months of meeting, once being in a sail boat! It was so much fun but the toilet situation definitely bonded us. We had no idea how to flush it and it took forever to figure out it was a pump toilet (I.e. google).
Being in a long-term relationship, you often forget about the dating phase and live in the present. Long gone are the days of the “butterflies” and queue the eye-roll as they forget your bananas when they do a grocery run. But I ask myself, “Why do those days feel so long ago?” What about a relationship makes us forgo the dating phase and how do we end up as roomies? Why are we so content in doing so? How does a relationship begin at point A and skip to lane Z seemingly overnight? As I looked at this young couple and watched the *clink* of their Cabernet Sauvignon I imagined their life and where they would end up. Perhaps they’ll be happily married in months or years to come. Would they stay in Charlotte or would his or her career take them to magical places? Would they ever know the way it feels to figure out a pumping toilet in a sailboat? It is so fun to imagine the possibilities.
In the past several months, Jordan and I have made the decision to begin dating again. Not because we made the decision not to date but life has taken us over and we have forgotten the passion we used to have. I love when he opens my car door and the way he says parmesan as “Par-ME-san” makes me laugh out loud. Often we find ourselves so busy in our own worlds that we forget that our worlds collide as one when we are together. We have made a conscious decision to “date”… even if it is just being close on the couch together. We love to be goofy together… as my mom calls us “cartoon-ish”. I hope in the days, months, and weeks to come we begin to reminisce on the dates that are new to us, that we begin to find a hobby together and create new memories to cherish.
So, cheers to those young, newly in a relationship couples. Never forget each other and always make your union a commitment, even when it seems like it is lost in translation.